Continuing with the cat theme of earlier this week, I thought I might share the eight most important things I have learned from my cats:
1. When you climb too high, you will have to trust someone else to get you out of the tree.
When we were living down on the Arroya Seco river, far from anywhere and everywhere, the cutest little kitten appeared one day. He was all white, except for gray curtains on either side of his eyes -- looked a lot like Murjan, just with gray touches rather than red. He would never come close but would sit on the fence in temptingly near-touching distance from us. One day, though, he climbed high into a sycamore tree. Donnie heard his piteous meowing for over an hour. He was afraid to come down. Finally, I decided I had to do something. I got a ladder and climbed to the top, then pulled myself up the branches to where the kitten was. He tried to move away from me but somehow realized the danger of going too far out on a limb (literally), and so I was able to grab him, skinny back down to the ladder, and carry him to the ground. I could feel his little heart beating with fear, but he did not jump out of my arms until we reached the ground and his sense of home.
2. A bed is a blessing.
Newbie never took anything for granted. We took him in from the street when he approached me outside my university office in Jordan, meowing from hunger, half-dead from worms. Our vet gave him little hope, but I eagerly ran off to the drugstore for children's liquid aspirin for his fever, there being no pet stores there for this sort of thing. Of course, the clerks thought I was a crazy American when, in response to their question as to the child's weight in order to tell me the right amount, I said, "hatha lil bissa" -- this is for a cat. "Nam, ana majnuneh, sahih" (yeah, I really am crazy), I agreed, leaving with the medicine tight in hand. The medicine helped with the fever and shots helped with the worms, but Newbie was always cold until he discovered the bed. He crawled under the blankets, and from then on he always slept with his head on the pillow and his body covered even after he had fully recovered.
3. If you throw yourself in your master's path, your belly will get rubbed.
Murjan seems to have got his species mixed. He is a cat, who is the size of a dog, and he has the behaviors of a dog. He follows me everyone, sleeps at my feet, and when I come home, he immediately rolls over in front of me, wanting his belly rubbed.
4. The best place to sleep is snuggled against your master.
I have never had a cat -- and I have rescued dozens -- not want to snuggle up with me and go to sleep. That's one of the rewards of rescuing cats. I like the snuggling as much as they do. Maybe more...
5. If you have a protector, you need neither to roar nor to hiss.
Little Bissa, adopted by Shane when we brought her back from Jordan, is the tiniest little thing. She weighs only a few pounds. However, when we first rescued her from the university grounds where she would beg for scraps, she hid under a bed and would not come out. She had never been indoors and did not understand the nature of this big cage, our house, she had found herself in. Everyone was afraid to come near her because she would roar and hiss. One visitor found me in the kitchen and declared, his eyes big with disbelief, "bissatek tigr" (your cat is a tiger). Finally, one day, I just picked her up and held her and held her, and her roar turned to a tribble (really, she does not purr, she tribbles). A few weeks later I found her curled up beside Donnie, sleeping. Ever after that, she was his cat, until she moved in with Shane, Lemony, and kids, who all adore her. So, now she has a protector; she no longer needs to roar and hiss.
6. Letting go and letting your master take over can be scary at first but in the long run wonderful.
Snowball was scared at first, but bit by bit, he let me get closer and closer. When he finally let me pick him up for the first time after the tree-scaling incident, he seemed to like being held. Soon, he was crawling into my lap every evening, pushing aside my computer with his paws, licking me, combing my hair with his claws (the only cat I ever had who did that), and sleeping for hours on my lap. Simone, our newest feral addition, refused to let anyone close enough to touch her for months, but finally I coopted her into a relationship by offering her treats. Now she likes both the treats and the petting. (At first, she did not separate the two. After I petted her, she would trot out to the cupboard for treats. Now, the petting is enough.)
7. If you didn't get born into a family with a master, go find yourself a master.
That is what Newbie did. He just marched up to me and asked me to take him home. Similarly, into our house one day very confidently strode Snowflake, Doah's cat, who got adopted by a British family in Jordan (because of his size and the heat we were unable to take him on the plane with us the summer we left but they could take him to the UK in the winter. Born in the USA, he has become quite the world traveler -- and he always knows where to find a human to care for him.
8.If you are hurting, it is worthwhile to make every effort possible to get back to your master because there is your help.
We lost, gained, and lost a wonderful little cat, Fuzzy, when we were living on the Arroyo Seco River. A feral cat who preferred the outdoors, he nonetheless spent every night sleeping with me until the day he got hit by a car. We were able to save him, thanks to a talented vet, but he did lose his tail. One day, though, when there were bobcats reported in the area, he simply disappeared. I published a story about him in a volume of stories by Middle Eastern authors. (At that time, I was living in the Middle East, so that made me a de facto Middle Eastern author.) If you are interested in reading it, I posted it post-publication on my Mahlou Musings blog: The Tale of Fuzz.
In ending, I will say only: metaphor intended.
Followers
Saturday, August 14, 2010
About This Site
This site was originally designed for linking the longer family posts and pictures that did not fit easily on my main blog, 100th Lamb. Over time this blog has become the story of our family, past and present. More recently, I have been posting excerpts from a new book I am writing about our family experiences: Raising God's Rainbow Makers. Here you will also find my conversion story. Many thanks to the followers of this site for becoming part of our family.
Most Recent Updates
Daily updates on family members who are "in the family news" are available on the Twitterlets.
Nathaniel and Nikolina have moved into a more normal set of life activities, now possible with the stabilization of Nikolina's health. Some of her routine care has been transferred from Stanford University Hospital to local doctors. This makes life easier for everyone. With her gross motor development delayed because of disabilities and surgery, Nikolina has been progressing in fine motor development faster than typically expected and is now beginning to draw and to type. Of course, Nathaniel is a great help to her in this respect.
Updated pictures of Nathaniel and Nikolina are added periodically at the end of the post about them.
Here is a picture of Nikolina that Shane took at a local restaurant. That smile on her face never goes away; I think she knows how lucky she is to be alive -- and to be intellectually normal and performing at age level is absolutely remarkable. (She still is missing some body parts, but she has never needed a feeding tube or any other kind of support since being released from the hospital.)
Pictures from our house blessing have now been added. Click here to see them: house blessing.
Nathaniel and Nikolina have moved into a more normal set of life activities, now possible with the stabilization of Nikolina's health. Some of her routine care has been transferred from Stanford University Hospital to local doctors. This makes life easier for everyone. With her gross motor development delayed because of disabilities and surgery, Nikolina has been progressing in fine motor development faster than typically expected and is now beginning to draw and to type. Of course, Nathaniel is a great help to her in this respect.
Updated pictures of Nathaniel and Nikolina are added periodically at the end of the post about them.
Here is a picture of Nikolina that Shane took at a local restaurant. That smile on her face never goes away; I think she knows how lucky she is to be alive -- and to be intellectually normal and performing at age level is absolutely remarkable. (She still is missing some body parts, but she has never needed a feeding tube or any other kind of support since being released from the hospital.)
Pictures from our house blessing have now been added. Click here to see them: house blessing.
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My Conversion Story
In addition to information about the Mahlou clan members, I have posted my conversion story to this site.
About Me
- Elizabeth Mahlou
- I am the mother of 4 birth children (plus 3 others who lived with us) and grandmother of 2, all of them exceptional children. Married for 42 years, I grew up in Maine, live in California, and work in many places in education, linguistics, and program management. In my spare time, I rescue and tame feral cats and have the scars to prove it. A long-time ignorantly blissful atheist converted by a theophanic experience to Catholicism, I am now a joyful catechist. Oh, I also authored a dozen books, two under my pen name of Mahlou (Blest Atheist and A Believer-in-Waiting's First Encounters with God).
A Guide to the Clan
Using Elizabeth (me) as the center (only because I am the one doing the blogging), here is how the clan is related:
Wife/Mother: Elizabeth
Husband/Father: Donnie
Birth children, in birth order:
Lizzie
Noelle
Shane
Doah
Here are the three children who came to live with us, in order of when they arrived:
Blaine (from the barrio of Salts)
Shura (from Siberia)
Ksenya (from Moscow)
There were also others who lived with us for a year or more:
Vanessa and her three children (abandoned mother)
Rollie (my brother)
Victoria (my sister)
George (a colleague of Donnie's who could not find a place to rent because he was black living in a principally white location)
And then there is my Maine farm family:
mother: Ma
father: Dad (deceased 36 years)
Children (oldest to youngest):
Elizabeth (me)
Katrina
Danielle
Willie
Rollie
Keith
Sharon
Victoria
And, of course, our cats:
Murjan
Intrepid
Simone
With time, I will add to the content. In the meanwhile, see the alphabetical listing under "family members" below to find out about those for whom I have posts.
Wife/Mother: Elizabeth
Husband/Father: Donnie
Birth children, in birth order:
Lizzie
Noelle
Shane
Doah
Here are the three children who came to live with us, in order of when they arrived:
Blaine (from the barrio of Salts)
Shura (from Siberia)
Ksenya (from Moscow)
There were also others who lived with us for a year or more:
Vanessa and her three children (abandoned mother)
Rollie (my brother)
Victoria (my sister)
George (a colleague of Donnie's who could not find a place to rent because he was black living in a principally white location)
And then there is my Maine farm family:
mother: Ma
father: Dad (deceased 36 years)
Children (oldest to youngest):
Elizabeth (me)
Katrina
Danielle
Willie
Rollie
Keith
Sharon
Victoria
And, of course, our cats:
Murjan
Intrepid
Simone
With time, I will add to the content. In the meanwhile, see the alphabetical listing under "family members" below to find out about those for whom I have posts.
Family & Friends - Bios, Pix, & Mentions
- Angel
- Barrett's esophagus cancer
- Bennie
- Beth
- Bissa
- Blaine
- Christmas
- Danielle
- Desiree
- Doah
- Donnie
- Elizabeth
- Elizabeth's father
- Er-er
- Erin
- Fr. Julio
- George
- GERD
- Gram
- home
- Intrepid
- Jessica
- Katrina
- Keith
- Ksenya
- Lemony
- Leyla
- Lida
- Lizzie
- Lyupka
- Ma
- Maha
- medicine
- Murjan
- Nathaniel
- Newbie
- nexium
- Nikolina
- Noelle
- Raising God's Rainbow Makers
- Ray
- Rollie
- rooster
- San Ignatio
- Shane
- Sharon
- Shelly
- Shem
- Shura
- side effects
- Simone
- Snowball
- Sue
- Sula
- tales from childhood
- Vanessa
- Victoria
- Willie
- Woopka
- Yahyah
- Zina
My Other Blogs
100th Lamb. This is my main blog, the one I keep most updated. I link from there to here when I want to use one or another of my writings there.
Mahlou Musings.
This site contains excerpts from my various publications.
Modern Mysticism. This blog discusses the mystical in our pragmatic, practical, realistic, and rational 21st century world and is to those who spend some or much of their time in an irrational/mystical relationship with God. If such things do not strain your credulity, you are welcome to follow the blog and participate in it.
Mahlou Musings.
This site contains excerpts from my various publications.
Modern Mysticism. This blog discusses the mystical in our pragmatic, practical, realistic, and rational 21st century world and is to those who spend some or much of their time in an irrational/mystical relationship with God. If such things do not strain your credulity, you are welcome to follow the blog and participate in it.
The Burning House
"The Burning House"
by William Smith
copyright 2009
I dreamed a dream of a burning house
With brothers and sisters and a cold bitter spouse.
The halls were all crooked, the doors were ajar.
I heard all their cries from the road in my car.
I put on the brakes and came to a stop
While an old jackrabbit went hippity hop.
I looked back again, and the house was ablaze.
The people inside just looked in a daze.
The curtains were tattered, the roof was not straight.
The hinges were knocked off the broken front gate.
The paint was all weathered, and the shutters hung loose.
A shadow on the barn door looked like a noose.
A kid outside shouted, "There's a fire there, you see".
But Mama kept screaming, "Come back here to me".
"No, I cannot, ‘cause your house is on fire".
But nobody listened as the flames grew still higher.
Once in a while a child would run out,
But Mama and Papa would just scream and shout.
The kid in the yard would utter a scream
As a child ran back in as if in a dream.
Soon the house burned right to the ground.
The kid in the yard made not a sound.
I opened the door, and she sat on the seat.
She didn't look back because of the heat.
I stepped on the gas, and we sped away.
I opened my mouth, but what can you say?
"They had to go back," was her soft reply.
All of them chose their way to die.
I turned on the light; she was just seventeen.
She was the prettiest girl I'd ever seen.
I'll never forget the night I stopped there,
‘Cause I married that girl with the long, flowing hair.
by William Smith
copyright 2009
I dreamed a dream of a burning house
With brothers and sisters and a cold bitter spouse.
The halls were all crooked, the doors were ajar.
I heard all their cries from the road in my car.
I put on the brakes and came to a stop
While an old jackrabbit went hippity hop.
I looked back again, and the house was ablaze.
The people inside just looked in a daze.
The curtains were tattered, the roof was not straight.
The hinges were knocked off the broken front gate.
The paint was all weathered, and the shutters hung loose.
A shadow on the barn door looked like a noose.
A kid outside shouted, "There's a fire there, you see".
But Mama kept screaming, "Come back here to me".
"No, I cannot, ‘cause your house is on fire".
But nobody listened as the flames grew still higher.
Once in a while a child would run out,
But Mama and Papa would just scream and shout.
The kid in the yard would utter a scream
As a child ran back in as if in a dream.
Soon the house burned right to the ground.
The kid in the yard made not a sound.
I opened the door, and she sat on the seat.
She didn't look back because of the heat.
I stepped on the gas, and we sped away.
I opened my mouth, but what can you say?
"They had to go back," was her soft reply.
All of them chose their way to die.
I turned on the light; she was just seventeen.
She was the prettiest girl I'd ever seen.
I'll never forget the night I stopped there,
‘Cause I married that girl with the long, flowing hair.
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